Objectification is something people do to each other every single day. We feast our eyes on each other like a Cal King bed full of hundred dollar bills we want to roll around in buck naked.

We do it because we lust like filthy animals. And those who are caught in the line of a piggish wanton smirk usually don't even know it's being thrown like a grenade in their direction. It doesn't even register on their radar.

We don't want to know if some guy, much less or our guy is looking like a salivating dog because it makes us feel dirty, whorish, and low. Most of us usually feel adverse towards it, minus those attention whoristic skanks who think getting raped under the eyes of some sick puppy is a compliment.

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Some women are with men of whom they have not a clue. They never even saw it coming and pretty soon, they're finding out things they never imagined could be happening to them. Like women (or men) coming over to their houses and getting freaky in their beds while they're oblivious at work, or finding a collection of home grown voyeuristic upskirt pictures that would make Larry Flynt blush.

There are things some men do that are reprehensible and absolutely sickening, and these men are out there, mixing among us, waiting for the right woman to come along who doesn't much mind, or is too dumb or is in enough denial to look blindly the other way. I feel sorry for these women because they need to wake up and buy an ounce or two of dignity and self-respect.

I'm not making blanket generalizations about the whole male gender. I never do. The ones in particular, for whom I'll tear open a new one, deserve mention because they need a spotlight cast on their wretched behavior. And their women need to see them for what they really are.

Face it, we are among scores and scores of men so much that they start to blend together into one big indiscernible wave, and it becomes difficult to pick out a good one from a bad one. However, we can tell very early on, like say, as early as the first date, that the guy is up to no good, and it will in turn, save us from a lot of painful $hit down the line.

So beware if....

• He makes overt sexual references about other women to you or in front of you.

I've seen this happen COUNTLESS times.

I was once on a date at a trendy bar with a guy (let's just say it was our first date and our last) where a lot of attractive singles came after work to unwind. We both worked in casinos and served drinks. He tended bar at the place next door and I was a regular patron. He asked me to have a drink with him and I obliged.

Early on, I knew something wasn't right when his attention from me was being completely diverted away by, as he puts it, "that sexy secretary with a really hot ass” who happened to show up moments after we arrived. At that point, I completely disappeared from his view as he peered and went on and on about the tight clothes she was wearing and how her body filled them out just right.

He even went so far as to tell me he had been wanting to ask her out for a while now and he's just about ready to give it a shot.

Needless to say, I felt insulted, turned off and not to mention a bit disgusted, in seeing this guy imaginatively tear this woman's clothes away like a wild savage beastly warthog. And to hear him go on and on about her in a sexual manner was enough to make me order three more strong drinks, pack 'em down and split leaving him with the tab.

If a guy doesn't have the decency to keep himself under control, whether you're there or not, he is a pig.

• He constantly LEERS at other women.

I'm not referring to the occasional glance. That is totally normal and is to be expected.

I'm talking about that guy I mentioned above times three. The kind where he wishes he was a slow moving roach with the eyes of an eagle suctioned atop of a woman's shoe.

This is the kind of guy who will be at the grocery store with his wife and their three small children, who doesn't even try to hide it when he's standing in the check out line and is staring at the young woman's butt in front of them, or turns around and breaks his sorry neck at the mall when he sees a mom and her budding teenage daughter in a bikini top.

This is also the kind of guy that will rationalize his looking saying "all guys do it” or "I'm a man, what do you expect”. Nope, being a pathetic pig isn't being a man. It's just being a pig, more or less.

Put a pig in a tuxedo, and alas, he's still a pig.

• You have a sour gut feeling about him.

If you have any kind of feeling that's unwelcome, uneasy, yet "unwarranted”, that's your gut telling you something isn't right somewhere and you should definitely figure it out. One of my faithful readers has told me her story and she'd done just that.

She also said that the things she discovered made her want to vomit. Tell me, if your guy was a righteous dude, does it make sense that you shouldn't be inclined to find things out about him that would make you want to lose the contents of your stomach?

Our gut instinct is there for a good reason. NEVER IGNORE IT. It's there to tell you what you need to know in order to survive. LISTEN TO IT and get away.

Hopefully you'll never get to this point by recognizing his behavior early on.

• He gets defensive about certain disgusting things he champions and turns it around on you.

If he tells you you're crazy, that you're imagining things and that you're the one who needs therapy when you have a strong suspicion he's recently visited Madame Lola's Bunny Ranch, he's a swine descending from the intestines of hell.

If he insists that you need to loosen up a bit and partake in water sports, freaky Caro syrup massages and how you're abnormal because you'd rather have regular old-fashioned romantic sex instead of the kind where you're swinging by your ankles from the ceiling wearing a Hefty bag, you're in big trouble.

Sick pigs are the only ones who rationalize sick behavior because in their own minds, their deviancy is completely normal. Their normalcy is our derangement, and a guy who cherishes and justifies depraved acts is far gone and beyond repair.

Hopefully you'll recognize this long before you ever sleep with him or give him an ounce of your soul.

People never lie through their actions. Pay close attention to his affect and see for yourself.

Picking out a pig from a roomful of men is pretty easy once you remove the blinders from your eyes and you choose to see them for who really they are. Piggish dudes rarely hide it and they more often than not, pride themselves on being disgusting, dissolute and morally displaced. They feel no remorse for their behavior and they feel entitled to it as though it is their basic human right.

I tell you this because I see and hear of the damage being reaped and sown by my readers, and for whom I've witnessed it as a passerby and for which I've been at front in the driver's seat. Women who allow men like this to be part of their lives are making a tragic mistake because they will find themselves unimaginatively despaired.

Just stay away and let the pig be to preserve in his own slop. Get yourself a good man who can tell the difference between right and wrong.